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Not in United States? Choose your country's store to see books available for purchase. Bobby Griffith was an all-American boy Faced with an irresolvable conflict-for both his family and his religion taught him that being gay was "wrong"-Bobby chose to take his own life. Prayers for Bobby , nominated for a Lambda Literary Award, is the story of the emotional journey that led Bobby to this tragic conclusion. But it is also the story of Bobby's mother, a fearful churchgoer who first prayed that her son would be "healed," then anguished over his suicide, and ultimately transformed herself into a national crusader for gay and lesbian youth. As told through Bobby's poignant journal entries and his mother's reminiscences, Prayers for Bobby is at once a moving personal story, a true profile in courage, and a call to arms to parents everywhere.
He's quite nice. He even signed my copy of the book. As for the book, it is incredibly moving and well-written.
I wish I knew Bobby. The book isn't told in narrative form as much as a back and forth leading up to the event of Bobby's suicide and its aftermath. I find tha I had heard of the book and had it in my possession long before I read it.
I find that to have been a brilliant approach to the storytelling because the changes in Mary Griffith's life were surrounded by Bobby's death. Definitely recommended. It asks the simple question of all parents -- do you want a gay son or a dead son? It asks the simple question of our society -- do we really want to have the blood of millions of suicidal young people on our hands because we neglected to let them know how much they're loved?
Oct 06, Roland rated it did not like it. Thought it was a very sad book - but honestly, I am sick and tired of hearing and reading stories like this about bad parents who do not love their children until it is too late. I'd much rather read about parents who have always loved their children, no matter what their orientation or gender is. View all 4 comments. Mar 27, Lisa M. This book is about Bobby Griffin, a young man who chose to kill himself because he was struggling with accepting his homosexuality.
He was raised in a family that was ignorant about homosexuality, and who did not know how to handle his decision to come out. His mother was very religious, and all she really knew about the gay lifestyle is what she had been told-- it was sinful.
So she berates him, and the religious guilt she creates is one of the reasons he decides to kill himself. I have read man This book is about Bobby Griffin, a young man who chose to kill himself because he was struggling with accepting his homosexuality. While I cannot truly imagine what Mary Griffin felt, this book made me feel like I had a better understanding of the grief process.
That was when this book first started to move me. Mary's transformation from religious zealot to a person who questioned the faith that damned her son was inspirational. She was capable of large changes, at such an older age. For me, the story lay in her transformation. Besides Mary's moving story, this is a great account of the early eighties in the gay lifestyle. Bobby struggles with things many gays do today-- struggling with the spiritual impact of his sexuality, questioning whether he should come out, the aesthetic pressures of the male gay lifestyle, and a promiscuous life driven by the fear no one could ever love him enough to keep him around.
Suicide rates in gay youth remain higher than those in straight youth, as well. He also deals with some issues specific to the times, such as the emergence of the AIDs virus. I would suggest this novel to anyone who is uncomfortable with homosexuality; it's story will definitely change their views. I only had a few issues with this book. I didn't feel like it added anything to this book, and it should have just followed the story from the beginning and the end.
The issue with a book like this is while we can read Bobby's journals, we cannot always conclude what he was thinking.
Sometimes we saw changes in his character that were confusing; I'm not sure if the author had issues with finding material to support that in the diaries and wasn't including them, or if there was none. Either way, the material in the journals was very moving. I felt I could relate to Bobby; it was clear he was suffering. Sometimes the writing dragged. I also had some ethical questions about publishing and profiting over a dead boy's private journals, but I feel it could really help people in this case, so I will let that be.
The subtitle should be: Family history and family relationships create the environment in which Bobby decided to take his own life. The crucial role of religion in the life of Bobby's mother is examined in the first 75 pages. Eventually Mom faced her role in Bobby's suicide and became a terrific a The subtitle should be: Her work targeted the public school classrooms of California. Even today homophobia is a huge problem in schools.
In my last teaching job in Fairfax County I confronted students on their use of "gay" as a put-down. When talking to individuals didn't work, I lectured the whole class on how inappropriate it was. Surprisingly, some of the kids who were the worst offenders asked the best questions about the ideas I presented. I think I made a difference for this group of kids, although my coteacher could never bring herself to even say the word "gay.
View 1 comment. Dec 18, Rodrigo Barreto rated it it was amazing. This book was a journey for me. I read this at a time when I was a gay youth and was struggling with my religious upbringing. This book was a lifesaver then as it helped me sort out my family, my thoughts, my feelings and brought resolution to my heart and mind.
This book holds a special place in my heart as it helped me grieve for my departure from the religion I was raised with, to a life built on my own personal strength and will to survive in the face of real adversity. I reco Heartbreaking. I recommend this to anyone who wants to understand how real and painful words, said and unsaid, can be and how they take their tole.
Love, is the answer. Sep 17, Orlando rated it it was amazing. A great look at what happens when a family turns their back on one of their own and how that persons death can reshape and change theirs lives only for the better regardless of the tragedy of Bobby's suicide. If you are a part of the LGBT community or know someone in it read this book.
It will give true insight into how dealing with sexuality affects people. Feb 02, Nolankeeton rated it it was amazing.
This book is SO amazing. It will truly allow many people the ability to accept themselves for who and what they are. I first got to learn about the tragic story of the Griffith family from the televised adaptation of their story called "Prayers for Bobby" which premiered on Lifetime network in , starring Sigourney Weaver.
This movie was based on a book written in by Leroy Aarons, which in turn was based on a true story. Bobby and his family, including his mother Mary Griffith, lived in a small suburban neighborhood in Walnut Creek, California during 70s and 80s. As a young adult Bobby was coming to te I first got to learn about the tragic story of the Griffith family from the televised adaptation of their story called "Prayers for Bobby" which premiered on Lifetime network in , starring Sigourney Weaver.
As a young adult Bobby was coming to terms with his sexuality, that unfortunately also entailed struggling with feelings of guilt and shame for letting down his family and his faith.
In , being only twenty years old, not able to find love and acceptance from his family nor his religion, Bobby committed suicide by jumping off a highway bridge in Portland, Oregon. This story is simple, pure, yet extremely important. I have seen the movie several times and each time I see it I cry. Link to the movie YouTube. This book needs to be a must read for every parent out there, regardless of their child's sexuality.
This book teaches parents to love their children more than their ideologies. While this book has been written in , the high suicide rates among LGBT individuals still has not disappeared. The horrifying statistics of LGBT suicides are left untold, unexamined, and silenced. It is interesting to note that the majority of countries with the highest rate of youth suicide are also the ones that are the most homophobic.
Link to the WHO statistics. Feb 04, Menglong Youk rated it it was amazing Shelves: Personally, I don't agree with this one at all because most of the times, word violence are millions times worse than physical violence. Since s, her speeches and participations in countless forums and organizations have extended to young American LGBT and other people, especially some ex-homophopes who used to consider homosexuality as abomination.
This book describe her regrets of not only not being there with her son while he was desperately in need, but also disgusting and trying to change her son while there was nothing in him that seemed to be changeable. Another sentence that touches me emotionally is when Mary said that God didn't heal Bobby because there was nothing in him to be healed.
Yes, he was born in that way whether he wanted or not. Why would anyone want to be born differently when they know that they'll suffer from "being themselves" when they are born? Below is speech from Mary Griffith: Homosexuals are doomed to spend eternity in hell.
Prayers for Bobby
If they wanted to change, they could be healed of their evil ways. If they would turn away from temptation, they could be normal again if only they would try and try harder if it doesn't work.
These are all the things I said to my son Bobby when I found out he was gay. When he told me he was homosexual my world fell apart. I did everything I could to cure him of his sickness.
Eight months ago my son jumped off a bridge and killed himself. I deeply regret my lack of knowledge about gay and lesbian people. I see that everything I was taught and told was bigotry and de-humanizing slander.
If I had investigated beyond what I was told, if I had just listened to my son when he poured his heart out to me I would not be standing here today with you filled with regret. I believe that God was pleased with Bobby's kind and loving spirit. In God's eyes kindness and love are what it's all about. I didn't know that each time I echoed eternal damnation for gay people each time I referred to Bobby as sick and perverted and a danger to our children.
His self esteem and sense of worth were being destroyed. And finally his spirit broke beyond repair. It was not God's will that Bobby climbed over the side of a freeway overpass and jumped directly into the path of an eighteen-wheel truck which killed him instantly. Bobby's death was the direct result of his parent's ignorance and fear of the word gay. He wanted to be a writer. His hopes and dreams should not have been taken from him but they were.
There are children, like Bobby, sitting in your congregations. Unknown to you they will be listening as you echo "amen" and that will soon silence their prayers.
Their prayers to God for understanding and acceptance and for your love but your hatred and fear and ignorance of the word gay, will silence those prayers. So, before you echo "amen" in your home and place of worship. Think and remember a child is listening.
Feb 03, Tony rated it it was amazing. The diaries added more depth to the story, and eased out the job for my lacrimal glands. I shed many a tear. You had your own inner struggle. You overcame ignorance and bigotry. But your dearest son had to be sacrificed in the process.
The speech Mary gave at the council chamber on Monday, February 23, rocked my inner core. Here it is: Because of my own lack of knowledge, I became dependent upon people in the clergy. I deeply regret my lack of knowledge concerning gay and lesbian people. Had I allowed myself to investigate what I now see as Bible bigotry and diabolical dehumanization slander against our fellow human beings, I would not be looking back for having relinquished my ability to think and reason with other people — people I trust for truth and guidance in my life.
It is obvious to us now why he did not. God is pleased that Bobby had a kind and loving heart. Finally, his spirit broke beyond repair. He could no longer rise above the injustice of it all.
Bobby ended his life at twenty. An injustice has been done not only to Bobby but to his family as well. Your fear and ignorance of the word gay will soon silence their cries. A child is listening. It is a story about overcoming. Now my reality forms my belief. You are always in my thoughts. With love, Mary Griffith. Nov 07, Janette Ozoa rated it liked it. This was an incredibly impactful book not only because it brings into focus the horrible reality of rejection and discrimination that so many young gay people face, but also because it's a great example of self-imposed ignorance cured and turned into something that has and still does benefit gay people everywhere.
I'm incredibly proud of Mary Griffith for not letting her grief swallow her up and for starting to ask questions and look for answers to things that were not tolerated by her church. S This was an incredibly impactful book not only because it brings into focus the horrible reality of rejection and discrimination that so many young gay people face, but also because it's a great example of self-imposed ignorance cured and turned into something that has and still does benefit gay people everywhere.
She proved that she's a woman of extraordinary strength. Things about the book that I loved: I really appreciate that the story went beyond the misery of a teenager, although that part is undeniably important to the story as well.
As a reader, it was important for me to see the fruits of Mary's labors, and just how far she went and how much she accomplished exemplified the extent of the transformation of her convictions. Outside the main theme of the book, it was empowering to read about someone who could previously be perceived as weak and unsure transform into a nationally influential figure with self-confidence built from scratch.
Things I didn't like: I wasn't so crazy about the jumping back and forth in the timeline. It was a little distracting at time.
A section in the book, I feel is worth highlighting: What the people of Concord do have to fear is their lack of knowledge concerning gay and lesbian people. When the clergy condemns a homosexual person to hell and eternal damnation, we the congregation echo 'Amen.
Had I allowed myself to investigate what I now see as Bible bigotry and diabolical dehumanizing slander against our fellow human beings, I would not be looking back with regret for having relinquished my ability to think and reason with other people--people I trust for truth and guidance in my life.
God did not heal of cure Bobby as he, our family, and clergy believed he should God has never been encumbered by his child's genetically determined sexuality. In God's eyes, kindness and love are what life is all about.
I did not know that each time I echoed 'Amen' to eternal damnation, each time I referred to Bobby as sick, perverted, and a danger to our children, his self-esteem and personal worth were being destroyed There are children like Bobby sitting in your congregations. Unknown to you, they will be listening to your 'Amen's as they silently cry out to God in their hearts. Their cries will go unnoticed for they cannot be heard above your 'Amen's. Before you echo 'Amen' in your home and place of worship, think and remember.
Jun 10, Peggy rated it liked it Shelves: This biography tells the story of Mary Griffith, a mother who felt that her gay son was condemned to hell unless he repented. Through Christian television and other media she was led to believe that prayer would bring "healing" to her son Bobby and that God's power could change him from gay to straight.
Eventually, Bobby's pain became too much and he committed suicide. The book tells how his mother grew to understand how her attitudes contributed to Bobby's lack of self-esteem and his inability This biography tells the story of Mary Griffith, a mother who felt that her gay son was condemned to hell unless he repented. The book tells how his mother grew to understand how her attitudes contributed to Bobby's lack of self-esteem and his inability to find a place in the world.
Griffith became an activist determined to make the world a safer place for gay and lesbian children. She joined PFLAG, demonstrated, spoke at hearings, founded a scholarship in her son's name, spoke on television talk shows, and became a high profile member in the fight against bigotry and against bullying.
One of her projects was to make sure that health issues pertaining to gays and lesbians were included in a school district's health curriculum. Another was to donate books on gay and lesbian subjects to high school libraries, so that questioning students could get accurate information on the topic. Griffith's journey from dependent housewife to outspoken activist is an interesting one, but I found her journey away from religion to be equally as profound.
The time period covered in the book focuses on the late eighties and the nineties, before most mainline denominations started to realize that how the church treated its homosexual members was one of the biggest moral issues of the time.
Though Presbyterian, the minister who presided at Bobby's funeral believed homosexuality to be a sin. Griffith understood homophobia to be fed by and encouraged by religion and eventually she simply rejected the church for preaching a falsehood. This book, first published in , became a film by the same title starring Sigourney Weaver as Mary Griffith.
Though the emphasis on specific legislative and other political actions dates the book, I am sure that many youth today are still being hurt by the same forces of ignorance and deliberate misunderstanding that Bobby suffered. Until hate no longer finds cover in religious institutions, young people will continue to kill themselves in despair that they are not worthy of being loved.
Mary Griffith turned grief into energy. Her story is one of the dominant narratives depicting the terrible impact of homophobia on families.
Her message, that a safer society requires equality, acceptance, and love, has increased in strength a hundred-fold since this book was written.
Mar 22, Seth Mavigliano rated it it was amazing. I absolutely hate left-handed people. Honestly, I think they all just do it for attention, if life for a left-hander is so tough they could just get up and change themselves. With a little prayer and help from Jesus they could all grow out of that stupid phase.
Bobby grew up in the s in a small conservative christian town plagued with ignorance regarding homosexuality. This book starts off with the suicide of Bobby Griffith, then switches back and forth in time, clearly and effectively, between the time before and after his suicide.
After coming out to his family, Bobby is immediately told that he has to pray the gay away. But his impulses remain and leaves Bobby feeling undesirable and worthless. Living with this despair leads Bobby to commit suicide at only twenty years old. After her son's suicide, Mary learns a valuable lesson and sets off to change the world. Based off of a real story, Prayers for Bobby is a touching and tear jerking novel.
I was inspired to read this book after I watched the movie that it was based off. I would only recommend this to a mature audience who can deal with sensitive topics like homosexuality, suicide, and drugs. Apr 01, Ti rated it it was ok. Bobby realizes at a very young age that he is different from the other boys.
As he grows older, he begins to experiment with sex and realizes that he is, in fact, gay. Unfortunately, his Mother, who is very religious believes that Bobby's "affliction" is caused by the Devil and that he is being lured into this lifestyle and that God will heal him. Although Mary continues to believe that God can heal all, Bobby's other siblings have learned to accept Bobby for who he is and try to support him but Bobby realizes at a very young age that he is different from the other boys.
Although Mary continues to believe that God can heal all, Bobby's other siblings have learned to accept Bobby for who he is and try to support him but at this point Bobby is frustrated and confused and not sure what to think. He believes himself to be evil and ugly and notes this in the journal that he keeps. After Bobby commits suicide, Mary begins to read his journals and it's only then that she realizes her mistake. Bobby was not "healable" because there was nothing wrong with him to begin with.
After this revelation she goes on a mission to save other kids like Bobby and through her efforts, many congregations begin to incorporate gay references into its liturgy. I had to stop reading this a few times because the subject matter was very depressing. As a mother, I cannot even imagine what Mary went through when she realized her mistake. I mean, this is a true story and Bobby's journal entries are so wrought with pain that it just tugs at your heart.
However, towards the end of the book, I felt as if it fell out of balance a bit. The last third of the book focuses on Mary's cause and getting the church to acknowledge gays and lesbians.
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This was a bit tedious for me and I skimmed a lot of it. Overall, this isn't really a book you'd pick up on your own. My book club selected this book for June and we are discussing it this Thursday so I am looking forward to seeing what issues are discussed and "how" they are discussed because of the touchy subject matter homosexuality, religion, suicide.
Lifetime aired a movie version based on the book. The trailer for it looks pretty good but I haven't seen the movie yet. Oct 21, Jen rated it really liked it Shelves: I saw the move, Prayers for Bobby, and was so impressed by Mary Griffith's journey, I started reading the book that night.
The book is a compilation of journal entries from Bobby, a gay young man who committed suicide at age 20, and his mother's thoughts. She was a fundamentalist Christian who called her gay son to repentance daily.
He wrote daily of his hatred for himself and who he was. He vascilated between pleading with God to change him and cursing God for leaving him alone. He stopped writi I saw the move, Prayers for Bobby, and was so impressed by Mary Griffith's journey, I started reading the book that night.
To download from the iTunes Store, get iTunes now. Bobby Griffith was an all-American boy Faced with an irresolvable conflict-for both his family and his religion taught him that being gay was "wrong"-Bobby chose to take his own life. Prayers for Bobby, nominated for a Lambda Literary Award, is the story of the emotional journey that led Bobby to this tragic conclusion.
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But it is also the story of Bobby's mother, a fearful churchgoer who first prayed that her son would be "healed," then anguished over his suicide, and ultimately transformed herself into a national crusader for gay and lesbian youth. As told through Bobby's poignant journal entries and his mother's reminiscences, Prayers for Bobby is at once a moving personal story, a true profile in courage, and a call to arms to parents everywhere.
In this book you see how Bobby faced with the pressure of his family and his religion telling him it is wrong to be gay. There seems like no other answer and soon the pressure is to much to take and Bobby decides to take his own life. Bobbys mom Mary Griffith who was fearful of her sons sexuality and who was a churchgoer used to pray her son would be healed from this sickness, but once her son dies she decided to transform her life by being a national crusador for gay and lesbian youth.
This book realy touched my heart and soul because when I was 10 I lost my uncle who was 20 to suicide. We were very close my uncle was NOT gay, but suicide became something I had no choice but to learn at an early age.
This book was a life changing book for me as it made me confront many of my own issues I had to face growing up as a teen and now in to my early twenties. I say if you have not read this book you really need to. This book is sad, but yet one of the most inspirational true stories I have ever read, but this is about real life and real life does not always have the storybook happy ending!
Alright, can anyone tell me if Itunes deleted the movie on here? I had it in my library and now its gone, I know I'm not crazy, but I am just making sure. But I do love Prayers for Bobby, its such an emotional story with a lot of heart!!
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